Trauma-informed Coaching Course

Trauma-informed Coaching Course

Want to reduce your anxiety? Want to help others reduce their anxiety?

Ever wondered about trauma – emotional trauma and how it might be affecting you or those you support? Trauma is the term used to describe overwhelming experiences that rest the brain at a heightened state ofg alertness. These can be because life experiences are too much, for too long, happen too quickly or for which you don’t have the inner resources to cope with them. Once your amygdala (the bit of the brain that becomes hyper-vigilant) is set in this way it means that events and experiences that a themed with the original trigger eg being overhwhelmed during exams, will trigger an anxiety response.

This can keep happening. And the result can be a boom and bust kind of anxiety followed by a physical and emotoinal crash. It’s an exhausting state to manage.

Over time we compensate and perhaps feel less of the raw anxiety, but instead develop coping behaviours. These coping behaviours can bring their own difficulties. We may resort to rescuing others, or being critical and blaming, or avoiding things such as not dealing with debt, or becoming hooked on gaming or substances to support ourselves.

In recent years there have been great advances in working with trauma and in gently and progressively improving the down-switching of the part of the brain that became traumatised. Emotional Freedom Technique, Trauma Informed Coaching and Satir Transformational Therapy are some of the approaches used.

The course is aimed at you, teachers, pastoral workers, leaders and coaches and counsellors. Run by Will Thomas, award-winning author, professional coach, and registered hypnotherapist.

Interesting? Recognise some of this in yourself or those you support? You may then be interested in a new programme I am running called Trauma-informed Coaching. It’s designed to help you learn more of the WHY we become traumatised – what happens in the mind and the body. And then HOW to resolve it. Drawing on three cutting edge approaches to reducing and healing trauma, this 9 hour programme is flexible, multi-media and very helpful. want to find out more? Click here

21.9 Hours a Year

21.9 Hours a Year

According to research by Greg McKeown and reported in The Optimist, the average “smartphone” user logs in to their phone 110 times a day.

This got me thinking. I did some simple maths. What came out surprised me. Based on this figure and a conservative assumption that it takes 2 seconds to tap in a four or 6 digit code or for a fingerprint recognition system to recognise your print, a whopping 21.9 hours are spent each year, just logging into our mobile phones.

What else could you do with 21.9 hours?  That’s almost three working days, it’s nearly a whole 24 hour day and think of the picnics with family, the chats with friends and the words you could write, the places you could visit and the precious moments with that older person you know and love who has seen the lion’s share of their time on  the planet.

I wondered how much time in the 5 years I have had a smartphone, that I have lost to its logging-in pad.  I’d like to think I don’t log in so frequently as I used to.  But it stacks up.

Greg McKeown, in his brilliant book “Essentialism” invites us to become really conscious about how we spend our time.  He contends that we can spend a great deal of time each day getting really good at a few things, or a tiny amount “good” at a million and one things.  He invites us to make a more conscious choice about how we direct our use of time.

For me, it’s more than just getting good at stuff, it’s also about attending to the things (usually the relationships) that are so very, very precious and so very, very ephemeral. It is about focussing on the question “What is essential for me today?” But it’s also about challenging the very definition of what’s essential.

Often our work drives us to do “essential things” eg make that call, file that report, design that process; but broadening our definition of essential to include what is precious and might be gone in an instant, that’s at the core of it. What it is that feeds your heart and soul, not just what is to be ticked off on a TO-DO list.  That’s what I’m inviting you to consider today.  Perhaps it’s about making your To-Do list and your To-Be list. Or simply asking  of your daily list, what is it here that’s ephemeral and will make my heart sing? Your little girl is growing up, your beloved pet is 14, your parent is unwell, your book hasn’t yet been written, your relationship is shaking.

Of course, there are things you have to do in order to keep the bills paid and the cat fed, but it’s about a bit of perspective and balance.  For a start, we could all log into our phones a few less times a day, and be with the people right in front of our noses in a real and present way.

If you’d like help becoming more present and focussing on the real essential stuff of life, join me for a day of learning, laughter and meeting new people.

Qi-Gong and the art of habit

Qi-Gong and the art of habit

Qigong is an ancient Chinese healthcare approach that combines physical postures, breathing techniques and focussed mindful attention. It also assists you to build regular habits that bring you a feeling of vitality and energy. The word Qigong (Chi Kung) is made up of two Chinese words. Qi is pronounced chee and is usually translated to mean the life force or vital-energy that flows through all things in the universe.

The Gong relates to regular practices. One interpretation of Gong refers to a 100 days of continuous practice of something. Eg 100 days of eating breakfast in the morning. Or 100 days of sitting still for 5 minutes with a cup of tea at the start of the day. 100 days of meditating for 20 minutes. The practice demands that if you break the habit before the 100 days, you begin the one hundred days all over again.

This of course is a semantic, because you are trying to achieve a long term habit, at the end for the 100 days, or series of broken patterns of 100 days the likelihood is that whatever you decided to do, you want to do everyday for the rest of your life anyway!

Qi Gong asserts that it is discipline that helps us build the long term habits that free us.

When we have begun a new term, we have such great intentions. The pressures and the busy-ness of the start of term, can sometimes seem to steal away those great intentions and break habits. What would you like to develop and sustain? What would bring more life force and vitality to you if you did it every single day?

If you would like to learn more about building your vitality, mindfulness and greater life balance, we are running a one day retreat entitled “Still Conscious” Email us for details.